Aloha mai e na wahine u'i........
I hope that you and your 'ohana had a fabulous Christmas and now as the New Year approches, you are putting all of your 08' "stuffs" in a box for storage. As for me, my "stuff" includes some bad attitudes; unrealistic drams; husband issues; kid issues; 'ohana issues (big one)...and yada yada.
I would like to ask, if you are willing to participate in another strand, to share your birth story.
What were you told about YOUR birth?
Where did it happen?
What transpired?
Who was there?
What was your earliest memory of it?
How do you connect with that experience, and your life? Do you connect with it?
Does YOUR birth story have any connection to how you've birthed?
Just feel free to share whatever.
I do want you all to know, that even though I haven't been on the site for a few months, I do miss all of you. I have a connection to you all that is very special and feel as though we "know" each other in a way (like our kupunas knew each other). Do you know what I mean? Or am I having "nursing brain"?
Lastly, we are bringing in children...all of us. They are extremely special. Gifted. Inspired to change the world. I believe this is due to who we are. Celebrate you and your partner this year. You have created an awesome bond to bring these children into the world....no matter the challenge.
Hau'oli Makahiki Hou,
Lorilani
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Was born March 19, 1979 at Keiser Hospital in Honolulu. Was 3rd in line out of 5 of us total. Young maddah - 23, young faddah - 21. My popz was "somewhere" in the hospital. He like go out with "da boyz" my maddah like say. She said was easy labor. All of us was pretty easy she said. And no C-sections!
She said the only things were that the nurses were snotty and that she defecated a little bit on the table. She remembers their negative reactions and thinks that might have caused her to be so distant with me after I was born. I wasn't breast-fed, neither was my brother (#5 and the only boy), she nevah says why. Funny though, coz now we her "favorites".
The other things she remembers distinctly about my birth was that she couldn't get the song, "Ring My Bell" by Anita Ward out of her head. She said it drove her crazy, that she felt like she was going have a breakdown - but she looks back on it with good humor and we have a good laugh about it. I guess it was a sort of warning that I was gonna be the one who was going to drive her nuts! But we get along so well now it's pretty ironic. Oh yeah, and I love disco!!!
She said afterward when the nurses would come to check up on me I would somehow sense them and start crying and fussing. She got a kick out of that. They would start to come in and I would start crying, so they would back off and I would stop. I guess they all thought it was funny. I think it's kinda strange.
I was born on October 16th...the first child of Emil and Chloe Keohokalole. I was premature by several weeks and needed to be delivered by C-section at St Francis Hospital in Kalihi. From what I have been told, I was incubated for a length of time and sometimes feel that this is why I am not a "sun worshipper".
I gather from my mom, that it wasn't the perfect birth, and coming from a ridged/strict family...perhaps did not nurture and dot on me as new moms usually do. 'A'ole pilikia because, I was showered with love and affection from my paternal grandparents, Emma and Joseph Keohokalole, along with a slew of Uncles and Aunties. At 42 years old, I am still dotted on and appreciate their love and support.
I was the first grandchild born into the family, my sister, Jeanine, the second. I have fond memories of growing up early on and being raised in Kane'ohe with my grandparents. I totally miss my family, as I do not have any here on Kauai.
Funny this trend of c-sections...the babies on my dad's side of the family tend to be big and overdue. My mother was a few weeks shy of her 23rd birthday when I was due, so still pretty young . Afraid that I was going to be big like my cousins and father, the doctor convinced my mom to schedule a c-section a week after my "due date". So my mother never experienced labor pains or pushed or anything. As my Aunty says, I came out the "window, not the door".
I believe I first heard about homebirths my freshman year of college when I took a class called Family Development where we discussed all aspects of life including birthing options. Finding out that not giving birth in the hospital was an option, I was sold. This was the only way I wanted to go. I'm glad to have hospitals for in case of emergencies but in the meantime I am a strong healthy wahine kanaka maoli and can't imagine not being with my children every single minute of the first few months of their lives.
Hau`oli Makahiki ia kakou!!! Interesting topic, Lori...
Funny, my Dad and I were just talking about this yesterday. I was conceived 3 months after my brother`s birth. My mom had an IUV at the time, so my parents consider me their "miracle" baby. They had to remove her IUV and there was every chance that they could`ve lost me, but I guess I was determined to stay. :) They say that my brother was their gift to each other and I was their gift from God.
Since I was conceived so close to my brother`s emergency c-section, they went ahead and scheduled a c-section for me too. My mother never went into labor and the birth was uneventful. My dad says it was like going out for a Big Mac! I was born at Queens`s Hospital and my parents were happy with the care there.
I sometimes wonder if the way I was born was somehow responsible for my extremely laid-back style. (There were no labor hormones coursing through me, etc.) I am rarely nervous or anxious. On the other hand, my brother has a lot of angst and his labor was 48 hours with over a days worth of pitocin. (Not to mention intense anxiety and stress from both parents.)
The twins` birth experience was like my brothers - pitocin, stress and anxiety. Ilana`s birth, while not a c-section, was remarkably free of fear and anxiety. (And a homebirth, so no pitocin.) The boys have a lot of angst and Ilana is much more evenly tempered.
Lorilani > Malia HelelaDecember 28, 2008 at 10:36am
Mahalo so much for sharing, I am looking forward to more stories..lkt
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Was born March 19, 1979 at Keiser Hospital in Honolulu. Was 3rd in line out of 5 of us total. Young maddah - 23, young faddah - 21. My popz was "somewhere" in the hospital. He like go out with "da boyz" my maddah like say. She said was easy labor. All of us was pretty easy she said. And no C-sections!
She said the only things were that the nurses were snotty and that she defecated a little bit on the table. She remembers their negative reactions and thinks that might have caused her to be so distant with me after I was born. I wasn't breast-fed, neither was my brother (#5 and the only boy), she nevah says why. Funny though, coz now we her "favorites".
The other things she remembers distinctly about my birth was that she couldn't get the song, "Ring My Bell" by Anita Ward out of her head. She said it drove her crazy, that she felt like she was going have a breakdown - but she looks back on it with good humor and we have a good laugh about it. I guess it was a sort of warning that I was gonna be the one who was going to drive her nuts! But we get along so well now it's pretty ironic. Oh yeah, and I love disco!!!
She said afterward when the nurses would come to check up on me I would somehow sense them and start crying and fussing. She got a kick out of that. They would start to come in and I would start crying, so they would back off and I would stop. I guess they all thought it was funny. I think it's kinda strange.
K'den! All pau!
I gather from my mom, that it wasn't the perfect birth, and coming from a ridged/strict family...perhaps did not nurture and dot on me as new moms usually do. 'A'ole pilikia because, I was showered with love and affection from my paternal grandparents, Emma and Joseph Keohokalole, along with a slew of Uncles and Aunties. At 42 years old, I am still dotted on and appreciate their love and support.
I was the first grandchild born into the family, my sister, Jeanine, the second. I have fond memories of growing up early on and being raised in Kane'ohe with my grandparents. I totally miss my family, as I do not have any here on Kauai.
I believe I first heard about homebirths my freshman year of college when I took a class called Family Development where we discussed all aspects of life including birthing options. Finding out that not giving birth in the hospital was an option, I was sold. This was the only way I wanted to go. I'm glad to have hospitals for in case of emergencies but in the meantime I am a strong healthy wahine kanaka maoli and can't imagine not being with my children every single minute of the first few months of their lives.
Mahalo for your mo'olelos.
Funny, my Dad and I were just talking about this yesterday. I was conceived 3 months after my brother`s birth. My mom had an IUV at the time, so my parents consider me their "miracle" baby. They had to remove her IUV and there was every chance that they could`ve lost me, but I guess I was determined to stay. :) They say that my brother was their gift to each other and I was their gift from God.
Since I was conceived so close to my brother`s emergency c-section, they went ahead and scheduled a c-section for me too. My mother never went into labor and the birth was uneventful. My dad says it was like going out for a Big Mac! I was born at Queens`s Hospital and my parents were happy with the care there.
I sometimes wonder if the way I was born was somehow responsible for my extremely laid-back style. (There were no labor hormones coursing through me, etc.) I am rarely nervous or anxious. On the other hand, my brother has a lot of angst and his labor was 48 hours with over a days worth of pitocin. (Not to mention intense anxiety and stress from both parents.)
The twins` birth experience was like my brothers - pitocin, stress and anxiety. Ilana`s birth, while not a c-section, was remarkably free of fear and anxiety. (And a homebirth, so no pitocin.) The boys have a lot of angst and Ilana is much more evenly tempered.